Long ago I read an article in Ladies’ Home Journal. I have forgotten the article, why I read it or what it was about. But one sentence stuck with me: “Good luck, bad luck—how do you know?”
I have found this to be true. Sometimes the worst times in my life, times I would not wish on anyone or want to repeat myself—have ended up making me a stronger person whose life is richer. My three biggest challenges have been overcoming severe burns, going through a divorce in a time when divorce was not common and was viewed as a failure, and losing my second husband to leukemia.
Life lessons I want to pass on
Keep your word.
Think before you speak.
Cherish your friends and family
Embrace a love of learning
When I was young, I was very shy and timid. In some ways I still am. I wish I could say that life has turned me into a more socially confident person, but although I’ve made progress, I still have a way to go…and not a whole lot of time to make the trip.
In one of our other lessons I quoted the song “My Way.” When I was a child, it was “my mother’s way.” Although a very quiet, unassuming person, she must have been stronger and more influential than I thought. I rarely thought for myself or even realized I could think for myself until I was grown. Too bad. I missed the typical teenage rebellion and the opportunity to sift through ideas to find my own way. Was this my fault? My mother’s fault? Whatever, it was a truism that I hope I’ve overcome.
Reaction to this exercise
I had no reservations about this exercise. In the day of Facebook, when people pour out (sometimes I think of the word “vomit”) their most intimate and most mundane activities and thoughts, it doesn’t seem difficult to share my feelings.